A short essay on love and care.

Why is it that people get so suprised -suspicious, even- whenever someone tells them they love them? Why do they get so confused when they're being told someone cares about them, even if they've done nothing to trigger that care, sympathy and love; even if they don't deserve it.

Because people pusrue the cognitive process; they try to understand, think through and analyze what you are saying, trying to find some reason behind your words. But it's not just words. What people tend to forget is that you cannot explain feelings.

Why? Because their source is the sentiment, created, triggered and fueled by instinct.

We have become sensible human beings through time and evolution. But there has never been such a thing as a passage from nature to civilisation; not completely, that is. Every human being still holds dear to some sentiment (one's more animal-like self, if you will) that dictates them to feel and act accordingly. No logic. None whatsoever.

Take a mother, for example. Do you think a mother overanalyzes the reason behind her unconditional love for her newborn baby? No, because there is none. It's that instinct that tells you that this tiny, wet, wrinkled and -why hide it? - ugly creature you spawned from your belly needs you. You, and your warmth, and the milk from your breast (your attention and money as well, but that starts when it's a bit older...) You gave birth to it and you loved it the moment you laid eyes on it. 

Above all, you care for it, unconditionally so.

So, why can't people accept that there might actually be someone who cares out there? Just "because".

Now, don't take it the wrong way; I'm not saying that anyone can love you like your mommy does (that would be sick). But there might be people who love you and care for you without you having to move a single finger. Some of them don't have anything to gain from loving you, either...

Because, sometimes, our instincts overpower our logic, and we forget to think. We simply feel.

Lots of love,

Melane.